Grab a cup of coffee and join us for a few minutes each morning.

We will share encouragement and tips to help you parent children from hard places in the midst of a hard time for everyone.

The Teenage Brain - Part 2

September 3, 2020

Understanding Teens: AP edition: What is “pruning” mean related to teenage brain development? Why is it important? How can this help my teenager discover and explore their passions?
Find out today as Nikki shares this important glimpse into the life of teenagers.

The Teenage Brain - Coffee with Chosen

August 27, 2020

Want to connect with your teen but don’t know how? Discover simple truths about the teenage brain and how it can improve your relationship. Watch this video today and help your family grow!


What Do I Do When My Children Won't Act Their Ages?

August 20, 2020

Do you get frustrated when your kiddos don’t act the age that is listed on their birth certificates? Today Nikki talks to us about considering the stage the child is in, and not the age of the child.


Back to School

August 13, 2020

How can I get my kids ready for going back to school? Whether they are attending school in person, online or homeschool, preparing them for it is essential. Get ready to take notes as Nikki shares some keys to success at school even before it begins.


Relationship Over Reward

August 6, 2020

Are you always looking for a way to get good behaviors from your kids with the perfect reward? Is bribery your go-to parenting tool? Today on Coffee with Chosen, Nikki talks about why working on relationship helps with hard behaviors more than rewards do.


How to Help Siblings Get Along

July 31, 2020

Is sibling rivalry a thing in your home? Join Nikki today as she gives us some tips on how to help brothers and sisters fight less and get along better!

Sleep Solutions from Your Fellow Foster Parent

July 23, 2020

Do you dread bedtime? Are you looking for practical solutions to getting yous kids to sleep and STAY asleep? If so, this video is for you! Tune today to hear Nikki’s tips and techniques for helping kids and teens with bedtime.


Interview with Lisa Qualls, Author of The Connected Parent

July 20, 2020

It is a privilege to welcome Lisa Qualls, author of The Connected Parent, to this morning’s Coffee with Chosen. Jenni talks with Lisa about this important NEW book that she co-authored with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis. Join them for an authentic discussion about parenting, along with a sneak peak into what’s in the book and how it can help your family’s foster/adoption journey.


Routines with Kids

July 9, 2020

Do you struggle with getting your kids to do the “next thing”? If so, routines can be your best strategy. Join Nikki today on Coffee with Chosen to hear practical ways to incorporate routines into daily interactions with foster and adopted children.

How to Say "No" Without Saying "No"

June 23, 2020

Are you tired of bad attitudes and disrespect after your kids hear the word “no” from you? Tune in today as Nikki gives us some reasons why hearing “no” is so difficult for children who have experienced trauma and what we can do about it.

The Ongoing Job of Adjusting Expectations

June 19, 2020

Adjusting expectations is an important part of foster and adoptive parenting. Determining when those adjustments need to be made, as well as in which direction they should go. is a challenge! Today Erika encourages us to continue making tweaks to what we expect.

How to Strengthen Your Support System

June 18, 2020

Do you have enough supportive people helping you on your foster and adoption journeys? Today Tera breaks down for us what an ideal support system should look like as we are parenting children from hard places.

Dealing with Disrespect

June 17, 2020

Are you tired of dealing with disrespect in your home? Sassy tones, talking back, and bad attitudes are common behaviors in children and teens who have experienced abuse and trauma. Today Nikki gives us some insight on how to handle disrespect in our families.

The Importance of Mindset

June 15, 2020

Today we are replaying one of the first episodes of Coffee with Chosen because the message is as important today as it was in March. Our world still doesn’t seem “back to normal” and our mindsets might not be in a great place. Erika challenges us to examine our inner monologues during a hard time.


Amplifying Essential Voices: Black, White & Us

June 12, 2020

Today Staci highlights a documentary that is especially helpful for white foster and adoptive parents raising black children. This extraordinary commentary on the complexities of trans-racial adoption is a must-watch resource.


Link to documentary: Black, White & Us
Link to resource page: Domino


Embracing Race

June 11, 2020

Navigating racism within foster and adoptive families can feel overwhelming, but we are here to make that easier for you! Today we are letting you know about one webinar, two websites, and a video with a trans-racial adoptee. These tools are meant to equip all of us to have the important conversations that will help our families and communities embrace race.

Embrace Race: Embrace Race
Be the Bridge: Be the Bridge

Listening to Transracial Adoptees

June 10, 2020

Discussing racism with the foster and adopted children in our families can be complex and feel uncomfortable. However, it is essential that we listen to their experiences with racism, as well as other voices of trans-racial adoptees. Today Staci shares two tips and two resources to help you get more comfortable with these conversations that must happen in our homes.

Watch the interview Transracial Adoption: A Family’s Experience and Advice to those Considering Adopting Transracially
Listen to Still Standing: A Conversation on Life as a Trans-Racial Adoptee with Kevin Hofmann
Read Kevin’s memoir Growing Up Black in White


Amplifying Essential Voices: Angela Tucker

June 9, 2020

This week we are learning from those who have first-hand experience with the complexities of race within foster care and adoption. Today we are introducing you to Angela Tucker, who is dedicated to sharing the experiences of transracial adoptees. We invite you to watch her short conversation with four teens as they discuss being parented by people of a different race. For more of Angela Tucker’s work, we encourage you to visit her website today where you can find her documentary, as well as information about her upcoming book release.

Amplifying Essential Voices: Susan Harris O'Connor

June 8, 2020

This week we are learning from those who have first-hand experience with the complexities of race within foster care and adoption. Today we are introducing you to Susan Harris O’Connor and we invite you to read her words and learn from her with us.

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Filling in the Stories

June 5, 2o2o

If you are parenting children who haven’t been in your home since birth, you don’t have access to their entire histories. This likely means that they don’t either. Today Staci gives us some tips on how to help fill in the missing pieces of our foster and adopted children’s stories.

Don't Be Afraid of Your Children's Pasts

June 4, 2020

As foster and adoptive parents, we tend to fear talking to our children about the time before they entered our homes. Today Tera helps us understand that giving children a strong understanding of their stories is crucial to helping them heal from trauma, abuse and neglect.

Merging the Stories

June 3, 2020

Are you parenting a combination of biological and adopted children? Helping children who have joined our families later in life feel like a part of our families takes intentionality. Join Erika today as she gives us some insight on this topic.

Making Birth Family Conversations Easier

June 2, 2020

Do you struggle with talking to your children about their birth families? Today Monica gives us practical techniques to make those conversations with your foster and adopted children a whole lot easier!


Talking to Older Children about Hard Histories

June 1, 2020

Do you assume that teens in foster care aren’t thinking about their pasts if they aren’t talking about it? Well, then think again! Join Alex for some thoughts about making your home a safe place for teenagers to talk about their hard histories.

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Giving Yourself Grace Without Letting Yourself Go

May 29, 2020

With over-sharing on social media as the norm these days, it’s easy to confuse self-care with self-maintenance. Today Monica talks to us about the difference between the two and how to avoid “system breakdown” while giving ourselves grace for the hard days.


Finding Accountability for Self-Care

May 28, 2020

Who is going to make sure you get some self-care? Not your kids, that’s for sure! Today Nikki continues our discussion on the importance of self-care and how to find accountability to make it happen.


Little Nudges of Self-Care Make a Big Impact

May 27, 2020

We tend to put off little moments to ourselves because we think they won’t make a difference. Erika tells us why we need to change our thinking about taking small nudges of self-care throughout the day when we are parenting children who have experienced trauma.


Changing the Way We Think About Self-Care

May 26, 2020

Most of us think of self-care as a break: a vacation, a day off, or finding respite. Today Staci tells us how she accidentally figured out how to include self-care though her days when parenting was a challenge.


Helping Kids with Body Awareness - The Proprioceptive Sense

May 22, 2020

Do your children seem to always be kicking or hitting? It could be that they need activities to help with the sense called proprioception. Monica shows us how to do that on this morning’s Coffee with Chosen.


Tips for Kiddos on the Move - The Vestibular Sense

May 21, 2020

Whether your kiddo hates car rides or is climbing your walls, it’s important to understand how a sense of balance in foster and adopted children can have a big impact on behaviors. Join Staci today as she talks about the vestibular sense.

The Sense You Don't Know About

May 20, 2020

Are you parenting a child who doesn’t know when he’s dehydrated or a teenager who can’t seem to dress for the weather? He may be struggling with something called interoception. Today Tera tells us about this internal sense and gives us practical ways to help our kiddos improve in body awareness skills.

Sensory Processing - Touch

May 19, 2020

Do you struggle with not being “touchy-feely” but your kiddos are desperate for physical touch? Today Erika gives us lots of ideas to give children healthy touch so that our connection to them becomes stronger.

The Eight Senses: Taste and Smell

May 18, 2020

Does your kiddo from a hard place struggle with picky eating? Taste and smell are two senses that are closely tied together. Today Tera gives us some strategies for helping our children through these challenges.

An Introduction to the Eight Senses

May 17, 2020

Did you know that we actually have eight senses, not five! Gaining and understanding of a child’s entire sensory system can go a long way in helping calm hard behaviors. Today Tera makes “sense” of it all!

Remember to Remember

May 16, 2020

Children and teens with hard histories sometimes struggle with memories. It’s our job to help them recollect memories from today and from long ago. Today Staci shares some tips on how to do that.

Connect and Redirect

May 15, 2020

In The Whole-Brain Child by Dr. Dan Siegel and Dr. Tina Payne Bryson, we learn the concept of “connect and redirect,” which is a helpful technique to use when kiddos find themselves extremely upset. Nikki explains the concept and tells us how to use it within our families.

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